12 December 2019
3 Ways To Make 2020 Your Roaring Comeback
‘Phoenix rising from the ashes’; the phrase dashes into our minds when we hit rock bottom. As the storyline goes, the phoenix is a mythological creature with fiery feathers that lives around 100 years (Brenner, 2015). At the last stage of its life, the bird settles into its shell of twigs, which then scorches ferociously with fire, turning the bird and its nest into ashes. And from those ashes, a fledgling phoenix rises! A Renewed and Reborn version.
Similarly, when you, as phoenix, start looking beyond your self-sabotaging thoughts, the sensation of your soul being fearless and bold spiritual essence, settles within. At this very point, you are hanging on a thread – you either choose to resolute the presence of courage or push yourself further down being comfortable in the fertility of the ground you’re in. Nevertheless, you’re still in the game. Here, you ought to have faith that if you have ever failed, it is for the reason to identify the opportunity and turn the tables around for your advantage.
We need a painfully profound experience, sometimes; its without mercy, far from our comfort zones and familiarity. But that is when our inner vision takes over and we are able to see our responsibilities as leaders that fuel our fire. Maybe, this year was merely a chance, for you to grind and learn, to rise up as a roaring leader in the year 2020.
CONTEMPLATE AND GALVANIZE
When times are rough, we are often confronted with our deepest fears, and our grief shows us our reflection like a mirror. Altering your perspective, to what the mirror is reflecting, is when you take the control of the game and change it! Choose to face your fears, look at your struggles in the eye and show them you’re capable of doing what makes you afraid. At last, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Research by Yamakawa, Peng and Deeds (2015) explains that the intentions of leaders, ‘turning around, and starting right from the scratch for the second time’, are defined from the following conceptual framework:
Behavioural Intentions of an Entrepreneur to start again. Source: Yamakawa, Peng and Deeds (2015)
Whereby, the internal attribute of blame is referred to the feeling of freedom, which comes from the weave and inflexions of the storm that the leader or the individual passes through. Consequently, whatever failure you may be up against (i.e. the extent of failure), only hold the strength you give to them. In more simpler words, you are only entitled to move on, through your struggles, challenges and failures; once you confront them, acknowledge them and accept them.
After that, you write your own story; and this is where motivation comes in. It’s your story! Have the courage to choose to change the story and make this 2020 a whole new chapter of your life. One that says:
“This is not where I chose to be; this is where I choose to learn from”
Having said that, let your determination be stronger, than your lesions, and your resilience greater than your fears. Incite the energy within, and recognise that accepting defeat is a mere state of mind. As it is quoted by Muhammad Ali (Evangelou, 2017):
“Only a man who knows what it is like to be defeated can reach down to the bottom of his soul and come up with the extra ounce of power it takes to win when the match is even””
GET UP AND LOOK FOR YOUR NEW BEGINNING!
Repeat a mantra after me; Endpoint does not exist; everything has a chance of revival. Among all the darkness you are surrounded by, there lies a fresh new hope, a reviving new beginning and a spark of light which is shining to show you the way forward.
Make the rock bottom space your springboard to spin out from. When plans and teams fall apart, you need to realise that it is often due to the weak foundation or maybe the idea as a whole. Be curious about the reason for failure and find creative ways to adopt new problem-solving approaches. Creativity entails open air, freedom and independence to wash in with new energy. Thus, allow your inner self to regenerate, and reinvent to rise from the ashes towards a greater glory of hope.
NOSTALGIC BLESSING
It is easier said than done! It is not simple to stop your mind wandering around to fall back into the spills of anxiety and spirals of fear from the previously shattered expectations and desires. At times, it might even feel like a punishment, like karma. But at those times, you need to remember, that life is not punishing you, but preparing you for the worst circumstances. You will come out of this as a whole new person, creating a one-of-a-kind version of yourself!
It is true, we do not understand the values embodied with our challenges and failures until 5 years down the line, we are in a better position to look back, smile and be proud of how we became more wiser and stronger. This does not mean that you will have the answers to every question right away! But trust yourself enough to know that at some point in life, you will be able to remember this phase and connect the dots to find the blessing.
Actions to apply to keep rising:
Within this article, we seek to challenge our mindset which has a negative outlook of failure; and highlighted that the only way to hit back harder is when you’re hit hard enough to illuminate your 5 way through the darkness. If you are a leader, who has failed his/her team and are seeking to re-start again, consider CONQA as your:
Ultimate moral support - We have tirelessly worked hard, to establish skills and out-of-the-box activities, which will help to evaluate your past experiences to learn and find new ways to solve your problem! These practices include all the motivation you need to get back up again, and make your major come back in 2020!
Self-reflect and seek enormous opportunities - Along with being your ultimate guide and motivation, we aim to help you seek effective opportunities to help you start again from scratch!